Every husband owes it to his wife to do nice things for her. It isn’t simply when they are dating or on their honeymoon. When you are married, it is even more vital to do little things for your wife.
When spouses cease making an attempt to keep the romance alive, the wedding might become weak and insecure. So, putting forth that additional effort for your spouse and relationship is quite beneficial.
Here are 10 special things a husband should do for his wife:
THE SECRET OF A HAPPY MARRIAGE IS FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON. YOU KNOW THEY’RE RIGHT IF YOU LOVE TO BE WITH THEM ALL THE TIME.JULIA CHILD
1. Touch Your Wife
Most women desire intimacy outside of the bedroom. You probably didn’t have to worry about holding her hand or caressing her back at the beginning of your marriage. The longer we’re married, the more distant our touches might grow. Jobs, children, and financial hardship may all take precedence over concentrating on one another.
But, no matter how hectic life becomes, her need to be loved by you remains constant. Consider it from her perspective: the day you married her, she became unavailable to any other guy. Any affection she receives is all from you. That is a luxury, not a duty. She is yours to adore and care for.
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You have her in ways that no one else can. Make touching her a priority rather than withholding something she requires. A surprise embrace is worth a thousand “I love you.” Try that and see what happens.
2. Show Her You Care
I’m sure you asked her where she wanted to eat, what movie she wanted to watch, or what she thought about her future when you first met. You probably regarded her as a collaborator, an equal, and someone to speak things out with when you knew she was the one. Her thoughts were valued.
Remember that now that you’re married. Continue to pay attention to her and appreciate her opinions. Even if you don’t comprehend her needs, take them into account. Remember, she’s just as involved in the life you’re creating together as you are, and she wants to feel like she’s going with you rather than behind you.
3. Accept Her Burden
We marry for various reasons, one of which is that we do not want to go through life alone. That image of becoming old and gray together has a certain allure to it. Part of the attraction stems from having someone else bear your burden.
When life drags her down, step in and help her carry part of the weight. Allow her to rest—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Be there for her, and she’ll be strong enough to be there for you when the time comes.
4. Communicate in Her Love Language
It is true that men and women express and accept love differently, but I believe this is due to personality more than gender. Everyone does not speak the same love language. The things that make you feel loved and wanted are unlikely to make her feel the same way. Your heart is in the right place when you tote the kids around to give her a break. But if she really needs you to bring her flowers to make her feel loved, you’ll go to great lengths to express your devotion just to be let down.
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Stop, drop, and roll. Stop and think about what makes her feel loved. What gives her the impression that she is your number one priority? If it doesn’t match, stop what you’re doing. Then go with what you find. Cheat if you’re not a keen observer. Ask her what she requires. Yes, she’ll be annoyed that you couldn’t figure it out, but she’ll also be touched that you tried.
5. Encourage Your Wife To Be Herself
Whether you met your wife in high school, college, or beyond, you fell in love with her for who she was. Maybe it was her sense of humor, the way she wore her hair, or how you felt when she smiled at you that originally drew you in. You never expected her to change.
People, however, change. Life brings with it events, situations, and obligations. And, for better or worse, we must adapt. Furthermore, we desire to grow as humans, and God is shaping us to be our best selves. Encourage her to explore new interests, establish new acquaintances, and experiment with different looks. Love who she was yesterday and look forward to who she will be tomorrow.
6. Let Her Space
When you marry, you naturally spend the majority of your time together. You live in the same neighborhood, have many of the same acquaintances, and attend many of the same activities. Even though you’ve combined your lives, you both require space.
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Provide her time alone, but also allow her space to do the things that are essential to her, even if they don’t interest you. If she feels good about herself on her own, she’ll be a better companion while you’re together.
7. Treat Your Wife better than a stranger
Try something new this week. Keep an eye on how you engage with unique individuals. Are you polite? Considerate? Do you answer inquiries patiently? Do you want to hear their thoughts? Check yourself when you’re upset. Compare that to how you act with your wife.
It has been claimed that we treat those closest to us the worst because we feel comfortable enough in our relationships to communicate how we truly feel. It’s wonderful to express ourselves, but we have a say in how we do it. Why not take the present you give strangers merely for being strangers and give it to your wife?
8. Value the Effort
Anyone who claims marriage is an equal relationship hasn’t been married long—or at all. Not only are the numbers rarely 100/100, but they are also rarely 50/50. Marriage, like life, moves in erratic cycles. It’s not fair, and it never will be.
But the basic truth is that you either put in the effort to maintain the relationship or you don’t. Either your marriage works or it does not. It’s either good, awful, or neutral. What you choose to do is where you have control.
Don’t settle for mediocrity if you love your wife. You didn’t go down the aisle expecting to be roommates who hardly spoke to each other. You wanted more, so go for it. Even if she’s given up, chances are she’ll step in and do the same if she sees you putting her and your marriage first.
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9. Ask Questions
Learning about her seems simple at first. You want to know her favorite dish, her favorite movie, and what she wants to do with her life. As you learn to live together and create life goals, being married brings up a new set of questions.
The novelty wears off, and the queries become less frequent. You’re concerned about what you need to get done at work, ticking items off your honey-do list, and fulfilling your financial commitments, and your world isn’t as in sync with hers as it once was. Stop letting her wander away and start questioning her. Demonstrate to her that you are concerned about what is going on while she is not with you.
10. Be silent and pray
There is a time and place for questioning. And then there are times when you just need to be silent and present. Even if you wanted to, you can’t permanently repair everything. When everything seems to be coming apart, you don’t have to give up.
- Don’t make her tell you what she needs. Pray.
- Don’t dispute over stuff that will ruin your marriage. Pray.
- Don’t try to impose your ideals on her. Pray.
- And never give up. Ever. Simply pray.
In conclusion, marriage requires effort and commitment from both partners, and small gestures can make a big difference in keeping the spark alive. By doing these 10 special things for your wife, you can make her feel loved, appreciated, and cherished. Remember, a happy wife means a happy life.